One of the gifts of longevity is adding new years of life that transform every life stage. For example, young people are taking longer to complete college and find careers. If they will live to 100 or older, what’s the rush? Of the 30+ years life expectancy our life expectancy has increased, many will be mid-life. As an increasingly mid-life world, we are grappling with questions about where we want to live, how long we will work, what kind of work we want to do and who we want in our lives.
Welcome to "Middlescence"
Barbara Waxman, a gerontologist and leadership coach, coined the term “middlescence” to describe this stage of life, when everything seems to be in flux and we feel a little uneasy about our status quo. She likens it to adolescence, but with wisdom.
She says, “Just like adolescence, our bodies are morphing. But now, because of shifts in our hormones and wear and tear on our bodies, we require more time spent on health and wellness than when we were younger. Just like adolescence, we have questions about our place in the world and wonder what our future holds. The life scripts we’ve been following may no longer feel right. We’re learning that decisions made in our 20’s don’t feel relevant now or for our future. We’re no longer young, but we certainly aren’t old.”
“Like adolescence, our sense of self, our identity is evolving. We crave an understanding of who we want to be when we grow up—even though we are grownups! And most importantly, our relationships may be shifting. We may be empty-nesters, divorcees, caregivers, or even newlyweds. We’re finding it’s time to revisit and reprioritize our most important relationships, as we’re reassessing what’s most important to us and who needs us most,” she continues.
The Impact of Living Longer
Our lives are touched profoundly as we live longer. The workplace has to consider the shifting needs of aging employees and the management of multiple generations. We question our value in an increasingly technology-based world of work, while younger generations adapt effortlessly.
At home, our nests empty and our hearts break a little, only to have our necks snap as grown children rebound home. Our idea of “success” for our kids must adapt to a new normal, as we adapt it for ourselves as well. Our parents become dependent on us and transfer their mantel of caregiver. We celebrate the birth of grandchildren as we mourn the loss of our friends. Again, like adolescence, we are filled with mixed emotions.
The difference now is that we have wisdom and resilience that we could not have imagined in our younger days. We have more confidence in our decisions and less fear about big changes. And though our relationships are changing, we have a strong sense of who is really important in our lives, and why they are here.
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